tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010339629775208651.post4347465327597586084..comments2024-03-10T01:30:55.745-08:00Comments on The Critical Mom: How To Write a Condolence Card When You Dislike the Bereaved: Six TipsThe Critical Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05340482094492988140noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010339629775208651.post-74944612843618520482017-07-16T10:38:06.433-07:002017-07-16T10:38:06.433-07:00So nice to have readers! (Actually pretty unusual ...So nice to have readers! (Actually pretty unusual for me. . . .) So unusual that I answer every comment. The Critical Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05340482094492988140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010339629775208651.post-2128028681498010452017-07-16T10:35:51.865-07:002017-07-16T10:35:51.865-07:00Thanks for replying so fast!
1) "us" was...Thanks for replying so fast!<br />1) "us" was just meant as a reference to the readers of your blog, assuming that if people read your blog, they might as well be interested in your memoir<br />2) thanks for the recommendations! will check them out! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010339629775208651.post-63910378063768123732017-07-16T10:30:44.445-07:002017-07-16T10:30:44.445-07:00Wow. Catching my breath.
(1) Who is "us?"...Wow. Catching my breath.<br />(1) Who is "us?" If that thing gets published--so far three agents asked for it and then lost interest--I will get my own website and I'll put the book up on my university web page, too.<br />(2) I agree with Laurie Penny. A writer who develops similar ideas in an interesting way is Rebecca Solnit, author of Men Explain Things To Me (https://www.amazon.de/Men-Explain-Things-Rebecca-Solnit/dp/1608464660#reader_1608464660) and, I believe, inventor of the term, "Mansplaining." She is really worth reading.<br />I also love Emily Fox Gordon's perspective on the difference between confessing and confiding: https://theamericanscholar.org/confessing-and-confiding/#.WWuieIpLfVp<br />Her first memoir, Mockingbird Years, is worth reading--deals with some of the same issues.<br />Thanks for commenting!The Critical Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05340482094492988140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6010339629775208651.post-45119393551211917422017-07-16T10:21:01.644-07:002017-07-16T10:21:01.644-07:00Speaking about memoirs:
1) I'm assuming you w...Speaking about memoirs: <br />1) I'm assuming you will let us know when yours is published?<br />2) I just came across a paragraph (pages 13-14) in Laurie Penny's new book "Bitch Doctrine". In that paragraph she comments on memoirs, which goes as follows: "When women write and speak the truth of their own lives, it is called 'confessional', with the implication of wrongdoing, of sharing secrets that ought not to be spoken aloud, at least not by nice girls. When men do the same, it is called literature, and they win prizes. The reason that society at large is dismissive of and disgusted by the avalanche of personal writing by women, girls and queer people is the same reason we're doing it: because these stories have not been told before in such numbers. Writing and sharing those stories helps us feel less alone but, more than that, comparing experiences of oppression and hardship and hurt makes it possible to believe that the problem might not just be with us, as individuals. The problem might not be that we are not strong enough. The problem might be broader, more structural, something that those with privilege have to answer for personally and together. And that is a terrifying notion for anyone with a vested interest in the status quo. No wonder our words are dismissed as the confessional chatter of hysterics. If they weren't, they might have to be taken seriously."<br />What are your thoughts on that? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com